I understand that the reason that this article was published was because you’re a super model, with Tom Brady and are (one) of his baby’s mama. I get it. Normally, something like this wouldn’t make the news. But it did and I want my opportunity to weigh in, because, hey, I can and you’re famous.
I think that I understand what you were trying to say. I’m a mom. I have a son and am about to have another child, so I’ve been hearing that “breast is best” from everyone since my son was in utero. And I think that’s part of what you were saying. I don’t think that I found that part of your statement offensive at all because I think it’s true. It’s better for a baby’s immunity and fosters bonding between mother and child. And I think that you may have a point in talking about wanting our children to be fed healthy food, as free of chemicals and drugs and other bad things as possible. What I think people found offensive was the tone that was used and how you came across. Some of the things that you said came across as pretty shallow and self centered – the fact that you only got skinny because you breast fed and that you stopped breastfeeding after three weeks (three weeks?!) because you couldn’t take people taking pictures of you. Also, you came across as judgmental of women that didn’t breastfeed or couldn’t breastfeed. There are women that struggle to breastfeed – mechanically in the sense that they can’t get their infants to latch on or biologically in the sense that they can’t produce enough milk for their baby, so they have to supplement. Sometimes, babies lose so much weight so fast (like my son did) that they have to supplement in order to make sure that they don’t lose so much weight that they have to be hospitalized and fed through IV tubes. Some infants just can’t figure it out. And that’s ok. There’s nothing wrong with it. Like you eventually said, we’re all moms just trying to do our best.
I think what could also be offensive is that it’s not life you breastfed for a year, 6 months or even one month. You breastfed your baby for three weeks, and are trying to pass yourself off as better than the person that didn’t breastfeed at all. That was also offensive.
That being said, I truly appreciate you trying to raise awareness about breastfeeding. I think it’s admirable and I wish that more celebs would do it; however I think that there are ways to do it that are empathetic, respectful and sensitive to the pressures that moms face when it comes to this and i wish that you had figured out that approach.