The impact of adult time on my mental healt is absolutely amazing and, in my opinion, key to leading a happy life with children. I think it’s especially key with a newborn because they require such intense, all consuming attention for such long periods of time – you literally have to drop everything to give them the attention that they require, whether you’re breastfeeding or not.
This weekend, I got some quality adult alone time AND I got quality time with my husband, all thanks to my mother and father in law (thank you so much – you will never understand how grateful I am for that time – it saved my sanity). They came in on Thursday night and left yesterday, spending a long weekend with us. On Friday, Izzy and I went to see Harry Potter and the Deathly Hallows, Part I. It was the first time that I had been to the movie with my husband only since I went to see Sherlock Holmes in January. It was the best 3 hours of my life – the movie was great, I got some time away AND i saw some friends from work, which was nice. We also got our gutters cleaned and had some good meals. And yesterday I got to the gym for the first time in months. Granted I didn’t do anything too intense – i rode the stationary bike for 30 minutes because I’m out of shape and am babying my ankle – but it was again, really nicer.
I seriously think that adult time is key with a newborn. They require so much attention all the time that it is so easy for the caretakers to forget to take care of themselves – showering, doctors appointments, hell even eating and drinking! Forget having alone time.