On the eve of my 33rd birthday, I have some musings, some of which are profound and some, not so much. The list:
- Go the F*** to Sleep is the Best Children’s Book that Wasn’t Written for Children Ever.
- It takes way too much energy to constantly beat up on myself, obsess on every little word that someone says or dwell on every little facial tic or expression that someone has. It’s so much better to put that energy into things that make you happy: children, reading, hiking, whatever floats your boat. And if you need to see a therapist about it or start a journal about it or cut ties with people until you can work on it, then do it.
- Do the job or the volunteer work or the hobby or all three that you love and are passionate about because life is short and it goes by very quickly.
- Learn a new skill or hobby. For me, it was two things really – crocheting and cooking but I want to learn/do a few more things regularly – snowshoe/hike/ski; write more in my journal/stories; create scrapbooks.
- If you are in a relationship with a lifelong partner and you have kids, it’s so important to have time to just yourselves – so it’s important to have a regular babysitter or someone to care for your child/children once or twice a month so that you can have adult time to yourselves to work on your relationship. It’s worked wonders.
- Spend quality time with the kids if you have them – technology free nights, getting up early, vacations, hikes, camping, day trips, you name it. Whatever it takes.
- Educate yourself and make your brain rich by reading, meeting new people, taking classes.