Why I’m going to be writing more

Since I’ve moved into my new condo, I’ve been working on creating my own space for things like writing and reading that are separate from the spaces that the kids have.  It took me a few months, but I think that I’ve finally nailed it down:


It truly was a team effort. The decision as to the type of piece was made by myself and my partner and it was put together by my partner (thank you so much!!!).  The children helped me to pick out the lights, the decorations and the chairs.  Now that I have a space where there aren’t any distractions, there is a hope that I can create more writing and do more work!  Yay!

Dear Cheryl

Dearest Cheryl:

It’s been a few weeks since you passed and since I attended your memorial service at the chapel. It was the most perfect place to have a memorial service for YOU – if you were alive, you would have loved it. In fact, I will bet that you loved it when you WERE alive and that’s why we were all there to celebrate your life. It was a beautiful service, and we all cried because we missed you and for Jill and Katie.

Your passing has been both bittersweet and palpable.  You had a tremendous chi – your energy filled up the room when you walked into it and you touched everyone’s lives that you touched, almost always for the better. I know that you touched mine in a very positive way – when I came to the office in 2006, you welcomed me with open arms.  You made me laugh on bad days at the office and we shared the tough times together. We grew fond of the same clients.You came to my home and to my son’s Christening (when he clapped his hands at all who came).  And you supported me through the dark days of the passing of my relationship – a different sort of separation from yours but one in which the grieving was the same.  We even went to see Brad together!!

I haven’t always been a good friend and for that I’m sorry.  But I tried and I will continue to try now by seeing what I can do to help Jill and Katie.  You will be sorely missed but I hope, pray and believe that you’re in a better place.

Love, Melissa

Vaccines, Weather and Why Calling Uncle is a Complete Possibility

Living in the Northeast, particularly Northern New England, has it’s trials and tribulations just like anywhere else. I generally can’t complain. We don’t have the devastating earthquakes or tsunamis that other places have, nor do we have the tornadoes that other places have.  We also don’t bear the brunt of hurricanes for the most part, because by the time they reach us, they’re petering out. But but the one thing that we do get is frigid cold and lots of snow.  This winter seems to have brought more snow in such a short period of time, which makes it overwhelming and frustrating and strains the resources.  Since January 27, 2105, the area that I live in has received around three feet of snow depending on where you are. Sme places have received closer to four feet.

Yesterday though, before the most current system dumped like two feet on us (yes, two feet, you read that right), I was running around running errands and I saw these two fools:


What I love about living here is that there’s a combination of farming still left over from the “old days” and modern, suburbia (think outlet shopping).  We have a ton of nature preserves too which makes for great walks with my kids. I am thinking about doing a snow shoe walk tomorrow down to Wildcat Falls actually if it’s not terribly cold. Wind chills and I don’t get along.

In anticipation of the snow melting in May or June, we’ve planted some seedlings.  These are gren beans and they’re already sprouting! Later on today, after I get done with laundry I’m going to plant more – tomatoes, melons, herbs and some flowers.



There has been a lot in the news lately about vaccines and anti-vaxxers in light of the measles outbreak at Disneyland. I am a very firm believer in vaccination.  I have found that a lot of anti-vaxxers believe that vaccinations cause things like autism. However, there has been no well established link between vaccinations and autism – the one study that was out there was utterly debunked. Vaccinations on the other hand have been shown to reduce the number of deadly diseases that are out there. It also increases herd immunity. With all due respect to my non vax friends, I respect your decision but my ultimate responsibility is to my children, so I probably won’t let them play with yours until I know it’s safe to.  Just saying.

Snowmaggeddon 2015


This was the few from my son’s bedroom this morning as the blizzard raged outside. It is so crazy outside apparently that everything has been cancelled including Court (which hasn’t happened in at least 10 years) and a state of emergency has been declared. We still have power (duh) and in spite of this:


Things are going quite well.  On my list of things to do today:

  1. Fight off this cold;
  2. Watch massive amounts of Dr. Who and any other thing that catches my eye;
  3. Laundry;
  4. Did I mention Dr. Who?
  5. Call people to make sure they’re ok!
  6. watching Matt Smith as Dr. Who! (although I miss 10 and 9!)
  7. clean up
  8. I love Amy Pond and will watch her too;
  9. Cook and bake while watching Dr. Who.

Now for the serious part of my post. I truly, truly hope that people are ok.  Please stay off the roads and stay safe.

Happy New Year

It’s 2015.  This means that I’m turning 36 this year and am for th first time closer to 40 than last year. As with every other year, it’s time to take stock and figure out what I’d like to accomplish this year.  Here they are:

  1. 1. Pay off a credit card.
  2. Save $1000.
  3. Read between 50 and 75 books.
  4. Blog once a week.
  5. Do a triathalon.

Those are specific goals.  Of course there’s always the goal of trying to be a better parent/person but that should really go without saying right?

Merry Christmas

Much has happened since I last posted but I have been absolutely remiss in posting about it.  So I’m going to bullet point it for everyone and promise to keep everyone posted going forward:

  • My Middle School Team made it to the final but lost.  We took second in the STate – not bad for my first season and for the girls! I realize that I have a passion for coaching and was reminded of my passion for soccer when I began my licensing courses. I have attained my USSF E License and am looking forward to going further and further in the process.
  • I have moved into my own place near work.  Love it. The only drawback is that a pipe burst over Thanksgiving and I’m having lots of work done to try to have it fixed.  My carpets in the kids’ rooms are now in. Yay!!
  • Christmas was a success. I made a full dinner, including a ham and potatoes (thank you – you know who you are!). And it was Nate’s birthday. Everything went well.

Turkey Trotting for Thanksgiving

So I’m here in Sea Cliff, NY visiting my family for Thanksgiving. I drove halfway on Tuesday evening, thereby avoiding the massive snow dump that occurred in New Hampshire on Wednesday.  I got here Wednesday at around noonish with my dad.  We generally hung out and today, I ran my first ever 5K: The Oyster Bay Turkey Trot. It wasn’t my best ever run. I’ve been averaging about 27-28 minutes and I came in at 29:20 or something like that.  It wasn’t generally a bad showing for a first race – but I feel like I could have done better. I was 12/40 in my age group and 364/1000 for overall.  Not bad but definitely room for improvement.  Anyways, have a GREAT turkey day!